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First of all, I do want to assure you that in reading this post about Hush, Hush I completely agree that it's a horrid, horrid message to send to girls. I don't know if it's actually becoming more common, or if people are just noticing/talking about it more, but unless the end message is 'this is bad', that's a crappy story (yes, I'm looking at you, Twilight and your creepy stalking = true love = happily ever after).
But in reading the post, I kept being struck by the 'girls are taught not to stick up for themselves' and 'be polite' part. That, I just don't get. Maybe people think I'm a bitch, I don't know. And I don't care.
Hurtfulness of words and connotations is a whole other post, though. And while I don't remember the incident that turned me away from "polite society's" notion of what being a good girl is, I've been told the story.
Apparently, I was very young (4ish?) and a girl on my street was a bit of a bully. She'd hit me, and nice little kid I was, I'd run crying home to mommy. Until one day mommy met me at the door, spun me around, gave me a shove and said 'go hit her back'. Then proceeded to cheer me on as I tore across the lawn and smacked that bully a good one.
Say what you will about her parenting skills, I never got hit again. And I can only recall one other time in my 35 years that I've ever hit another person, so it didn't turn me violent. It did teach me to stick up for myself, though.
I still think I'm fairly nice (most of the time), but is someone makes me uncomfortable I have no problem leaving (rudely), telling them in no uncertain terms to back off (even more rudely), and/or letting it slip I've have no problem breaking any appendage they put on my person without my permission. And, if all else fails, I don't really see myself having a problem causing grevious bodily harm (letting slip you have a permit to carry a handgun never hurts).
I'd rather be a safe, happy bitch than a societally correct absused person, that's for sure. Besides, you say 'bitch' like it's a bad thing.
But in reading the post, I kept being struck by the 'girls are taught not to stick up for themselves' and 'be polite' part. That, I just don't get. Maybe people think I'm a bitch, I don't know. And I don't care.
Hurtfulness of words and connotations is a whole other post, though. And while I don't remember the incident that turned me away from "polite society's" notion of what being a good girl is, I've been told the story.
Apparently, I was very young (4ish?) and a girl on my street was a bit of a bully. She'd hit me, and nice little kid I was, I'd run crying home to mommy. Until one day mommy met me at the door, spun me around, gave me a shove and said 'go hit her back'. Then proceeded to cheer me on as I tore across the lawn and smacked that bully a good one.
Say what you will about her parenting skills, I never got hit again. And I can only recall one other time in my 35 years that I've ever hit another person, so it didn't turn me violent. It did teach me to stick up for myself, though.
I still think I'm fairly nice (most of the time), but is someone makes me uncomfortable I have no problem leaving (rudely), telling them in no uncertain terms to back off (even more rudely), and/or letting it slip I've have no problem breaking any appendage they put on my person without my permission. And, if all else fails, I don't really see myself having a problem causing grevious bodily harm (letting slip you have a permit to carry a handgun never hurts).
I'd rather be a safe, happy bitch than a societally correct absused person, that's for sure. Besides, you say 'bitch' like it's a bad thing.
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I'd use the tags to search, but holy carp that's a horrid, horrid tag thingee. It's almost impossible to see/pick a tag!
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